It’s Happening! 5 Ways to Support Your Teen Emotionally and Mentally for the Upcoming School Year

By Colleen Yanez | www.thekeycoach.org

The end of summer can stir up a mix of emotions for teens—and for parents. Excitement, anxiety, dread, hope, and everything in between. Teens spend time wondering: Will my teachers be nice? Are my friends in my classes?  Is it going to be hard?  And so much more!  As backpacks get packed and alarms start ringing, many teens struggle not just with logistics but with the emotional weight of starting a new school year.

The good news? With a little intention and support, you can help your teen walk into the school year feeling steady, confident, and equipped to handle what’s ahead.

Here are five simple but powerful ways to support your teen’s emotional and mental readiness for the school year:

1. Start with Sleep

It’s hard to comprehend the full impact a lack of sleep can have on a teen, emotionally, mentally and physically.  Exhaustion is one of the biggest stressors for teens, and can be managed with a little bit of planning.  A top priority should be to ensure that your teen does not have access to their electronic devices after 9 or 10 pm.  Chatting with friends, gaming and doom scrolling keep teens up until all hours of the night.  Another thing to talk to your teen about is avoiding heavy sugar or caffeinated beverages after dinner.  

🛌 Tip: Have a chat with your teen about these habits, including a reasonable bed time, before routines are newly formed.

2. Keep an Open Mind

Many teens are nervous about things they haven’t voiced—friendship changes, academic pressures, social anxiety. Create space for honest conversations, but avoid turning it into a parental download. Most likely, teens are not going to respond to a barrage of questions about any of these things.  But if you listen, you’ll hear your teen tell you what’s going on, sometimes without saying a word.  Paying attention to mood swings, body language, and little comments that may seem insignificant will definitely help you to break the teen code. 

🗣 Tip: Ask, “What are you most looking forward to?” and “I noticed that you seem upset–Is there anything that’s stressing you out?” Then just listen. Your job here is to hear, validate, and offer calm—not to fix everything. 

3. Set Realistic Expectations Together

Teens thrive with structure, but unrealistic demands can tank their confidence before they even begin. Instead of laying down a list of “rules,” work with your teen to create expectations around screen time, grades, responsibilities, and self-care. This is especially important for teens whose lives are chock full of extracurricular activities that pull teens (and parents!) in a million directions.  Encourage time off to relax while also maintaining school as a priority.

📋 Tip: Use language like “What would a successful first month of school look like for you?” or “Let’s figure out a rhythm that works for both of us.”

4. Walk in Their Shoes

Do you remember what it was like for you in middle and high school?  Academic success is important—but much like us back then, your teen really only cares about the 3rd level of Maslow’s hierarchy: belonging.  They’re wondering about their teachers, their friends, their appearance, making teams, not doing anything embarrassing, etc.  For this area, there’s not much you can do except provide space for your teen to come to you when they’re hurting, confused, frustrated.  Keeping an open, non judgmental space will be key to your teen feeling comfortable enough to open up.

Tip: Mentally spend a little bit of time back in your middle or high school years.  It’s amazing how much we forget about that time and what we were really like.  Taking a trip down memory lane may be that which allows you a little more patience and humor in the present moment!

5. Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff!

The transition back to school is hard, even for the most confident teen. Instead of focusing on perfection, help them to learn to let things roll off their back, including missed/failed assignments, getting in trouble at school, or making a mistake.  Teens put SO MUCH pressure on themselves to be perfect that making a mistake can be devastating.  Knowing that mistakes are a part of life, even if there are consequences that come with it, will go a long way in having your teen have peace of mind.  

🎉 Tip: Normalize talking about what you’re proud about and having your teen share what they’re proud about for themselves.  And when things don’t go well? Reinforce that struggle is part of growth.

💬 Final Thought:

A back-to-school reset isn’t about controlling the experience—it’s about supporting your teen as they walk into it. By showing up with empathy, boundaries, and belief in their ability to adapt, you're giving them the foundation they need to succeed both inside and outside the classroom.

Need more tools to support your teen this school year?
💻 Visit www.thekeycoach.org or email Colleen at colleen@thekeycoach.org for coaching support, free resources, and parent workshops.